I’ve been in my feelings lately, and yesterday, I came across a concept that had me thinking…mastering the opposite.

It’s the idea that sometimes, despite our best intentions, we become good at things that take us in the opposite direction of what we want, so we become a master of the opposite.

You want peace, but you’ve mastered stress. You want freedom, but you’ve mastered control. You want visibility, but you’ve mastered staying small…and the list goes on.

For some strange reason, my mind went to social media, how many of us have mastered endless scrolling while craving real connection? Geez.

Digging deeper, what we have mastered is not always obvious, even to us. We have to track our actions, not just our intentions. Examine how we spend our time, not just what we say we value. Because mastery isn’t about what we plan to do or wish we were doing. It’s about what we do, consistently. And slowly but surely, we end up perfecting habits that pull us away from what we say we truly value.

You master what you do repeatedly.

This was my pause. My checkpoint. To ask: What have I mastered? What am I currently mastering? Is it helping me become who I say I want to be? I am sitting with that one at the moment. Journaling my responses to help get some insights, I need to make the shifts that may be necessary for re-alignment.

Perhaps it’s time to become the master of the game, not the master of the opposite.

So I’ll leave you with this: What are you mastering, intentionally or not? Is it leading you closer to what you truly want?

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